Boo Fucking Who, Little johnny didn’t get a ribbon

First let me say I understand wanting to protect your child’s fragile little feelings, But there has to be a point when the madness stops.  I am so tired of hearing about parents who whine when their kid doesn’t get an award in some sport or event.

I am on a FB group of an elementary school that an unnamed person’s kids go to.  I saw there was a discussion about the recent science fair they had.  Get this shit, Some of the moms were not too happy that awards were given for 1st, 2nd and 3rd place etc and that not everyone got an award.  What you are thinking is correct, their kids didn’t win shit.  I have no doubt if their kids had won say first place they wouldn’t be opening their mouths.  I really laughed when one mom wrote, “We didn’t realize it was a competition” Really? Are you kidding me? Since when has a science fair not been a competition?  I guess it should be called the Science competition.  Also please be sure dinner at your house is now called, The Dinner competition because I bet 20 bucks the kid who doesn’t eat all their veggies isn’t going to get the prize aka dessert.

Seriously you didn’t see me crying because my dog didn’t get a ribbon at the hunt test…Oh wait that’s right because she did, My dog kicks ass.

Am I the only one who thinks this is a bunch of shit?  I think it is important to teach your kids that yeah they fucking suck at some shit. I mean if your kid can’t kick the fucking soccer ball, nor does he want to put in the effort then don’t put them in soccer then complain when the kid who does and spends his free time practicing (while your delicate little flower sits on his ass playing video games instead of practicing) gets VIP on the team and yup a huge shiny trophy.

As far as I am concerned a little competition is healthy.  I don’t believe in dumbing shit down regardless of how old you are.  You should be teaching your child how to be happy for other people’s success (as well as their own) instead of teaching them that life is fair, it isn’t.  Teach them it is ok to be 2nd or 3rd and make fun of them along the way (it’s fun), Build up that self-esteem.

I suppose growing up a hunter with my dad I learned that you don’t always get the deer or bird.  Sometimes your hunting partner shoots the leg off a deer, then makes you hikes miles looking for a three-legged deer, even when you point out that a three-legged deer really wouldn’t get that far…I often wonder about that three-legged deer and where it is today. Or if my dad err I mean hunting partner really even hit the damn thing at all.

If my kid turns out anything like me she is going to be fucked in the science department and academics.  So I will be sure to enroll her in an elementary school with a Trap team, I am sure she will be amazing.  Hopefully she isn’t on the highschool drinking team like her father and I were.

Advertisements

6 comments

  1. Well said I agree children need to learn you can’t win all the time, other wise they would never have had a 2or 3rd place award . It’s not always about winning it’s about being a team player

  2. I agree. Unfortunately, we are two generations into this type of mentality. Its all about equality, everyone wants to be equal but forgets the FACT that we are all unique. We are all different, but most of us (not me of course) have been programmed to believe that our differences will produce the same results equally. And since we cant have any hurt feelings….out come the participation certificates/plaques/trophies. No sense of failure or determination to strive for success is experienced for these kids, most of whom will not now how it feels to lose until they get into adulthood. At that point you have a grown toddler who has not yet learned not only how to lose but the emotions that accompany it. The same argument could be made for all of these kids who are simply medicated throughout their childhood for various behavioral “disorders”. Since we are in the second generation of this, the parents of these young adults find it easier to medicate their children for behavioral/learning disorders than to invest the most critical component a child needs…….their TIME. So now we have in our/your society, young adults who are no longer under the care (medicinally) of a psychologist, nor their parents, who have been so selfish they are likely to be “rid” of their problem kid (s). But lets face it……if the “parent (s)” had been there to begin with…..some of these kids would have turned out a bit better. As these young adults/adults find themselves in real situation in which they experience stress, rejection, disenchantment, resentment, and of course, not “winning”, they don’t know how to handle those emotions because they bridged the learning time with “equality” or medication. So we end up with people like that crazy fuck in Newtown and the like. Ever notice there aren’t any insane asylums anywhere? Prozac, Adderol, Zanax, and whatever else has replaced the need. Personally, I/we are just fine with the kids losing….coming in second…..maybe winning once and a while…its ALL about the parenting. Parenting isnt providing food and shelter…. parenting is guidance, love, reading, teaching, correcting, reasoning, rationalizing, defending, and fighting off the ills of society……and so much more. The better you tend your garden the better your result. 😉

  3. Sooooo true, I am so sick of these granola lugging hover moms and their entitled little brats, they have zero accountability and sit there shocked when their teenager tells them to fuck off, oh I’m sorry did he not learn the word no as a child, why don’t you count to 30 with fractions I am sure he will listen, since that obviously worked so well the first time, We are going to have an entire generation that has to learn disappointment as adults, oh my word I have so much to say on this subject, So sad I missed the discussion post!!

  4. Hoorah Nikki, I couldn’t have said it better. We are raising a bunch of whiners, I hate to see who is going to protect this country in a few years. Reed can’t do it all by herself. I’m so proud of you Nikki, you are a great mom.

  5. This is so true. See it in sports. Parents say its not about winning right? The fuck it isn’t! If it wasnt about winning then why is there a score board? Life is not fair. The sooner kids learn this the better ofgf they will be

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s